You learned how to be what your family needed. Now begin learning who you are.
Finding Me Again
A live three-hour identity-building workshop for adults raised by narcissistic, emotionally self-focused, controlling or unpredictable parents.
Created by Katie McKenna. Accredited Psychotherapist, still in practice. Host of 'Beyond Survival' The Therapy Podcast and co-author of the Sunday Times bestseller 'You're Not The Problem'
A GENTLE FIT CHECK
You're in the right place if...
You automatically scan other people's moods before noticing your own.
You feel guilty, selfish, or unsafe when you have a need or boundary.
You are capable in some areas, but unsure what you genuinely want or feel
You question whether your memories, feelings, or reactions are valid.
You have spent years being the peacekeeper, achiever, caretaker, invisible one, or 'problem'
You do not need to know exactly what to call your family experience to begin understanding what it taught you about yourself.
A GENTLE FIT CHECK
You are not bad at knowing yourself
You may have learned that knowing youself was unsafe. When belonging depended on being helpful, agreeable, successful, invisible, loyal or emotionally available, it made sense to focus outward
Three hours. Three core modules.
One clear path back to your own voice.
We begin with an orientation
The Family Operating Code - Spoken and Unspoken Rules that shaped safety, loyalty, and belonging.
The Mirror
What did I learn to reflect back
in order to belong?
Name the emotional climate you learned to monitor, the role you were expected to play - and most importantly - what parts of you had to go quiet.
The Canvas
What was placed on me when I
did not comply?
Separate the labels and stories you received from observable facts, appropriate responsibilities, and your own voice.
The Unwritten Self
What can I begin to choose and
practice now?
Reconnect with yourself because you exist and explore
WHAT YOU WILL LEAVE WITH
Not your whole story solved.
A clearer map for the next step.
This is not a promise to heal everything in a day. It is a structured space to identify the old rules and labels that shaped you, reconnect with what is true for you now, and leave with tools you can keep using.
“I'm sincere when I say my husband and I have repeatedly said this is the best parenting course we've ever paid for.” – AnnaLisa
A live three-hour identity-building workshop for adults raised by narcissistic, emotionally self-focused, controlling or unpredictable parents.
Three hours. Three core modules. One clear path back to your own voice.
ABOUT THE FACILITATOR
I was the sensible one too.
I was parentified. I was the child who could tell what mood she was in from the other room. I was good at it. Everyone said how mature I was. Nobody asked what I wanted, and after a while I stopped asking myself.
I’m an accredited psychotherapist now, and parentification is what I specialise in. Most days I sit with women who were the adult in the house at eight and are still on duty at forty.
I co-wrote You’re Not the Problem, a Sunday Times bestseller that might already be on your shelf. On Beyond Survival - the therapy podcast (over 200,000 downloads), I’ve spent years reading letters from women who could have written my childhood.
Here’s what I’ve learned, in the therapy room and in my own life:
knowing what happened to you doesn’t tell you who you are.
You can name every pattern and read every book, and still feel guilty sitting down while anyone else in the house is standing up.
That’s what Finding Me Again is for.
Not more understanding. Not more understanding.
Meeting yourself, maybe for the first time.
And here is the part that matters more than any of it. I never left the room. A lot of this advice now comes from people who do content full time. I am still a working psychotherapist, in session every week.
So what I teach you is not a take I filmed once and moved on from.
It is what I am using with real people, in real sessions, right now.
IACP-accredited psychotherapist · 15+ years in practice · Co-author, You’re Not the Problem (Sunday Times bestseller) · Host, Beyond Survival ·
As seen on RTÉ · Ireland AM · Irish Independent
A clear, contained day.
GMT+1
12.00
The Family Operating Code
Grounding, choice, and the rules that shaped belonging
12.20
The Mirror
The role you learned to preform
13.00
A quiet break
Step away, regulate, hydrate, or reflect privatley
13.10
The Canvas
The labels and stories you learned to carry
14.00
The Studio
You exist. Your values, needs, preferences, and next steps
Payment
€267 Sat Feb 20th
Book before Jan 20th €246
YOUR SPACE IN THE WORKSHOP
You will not be asked to prove your story -
or preform your healing.
No forced sharing
Camera on or off, your choice
No diagnosis required
The focus is the impact on you, not determining a clinical condition
No confrontation agenda
No pressure to confront, reconcile with, distance from, or cut off family
Choice-led participation
Pause, pass, or adapt any exercise to your capacity and circumstances
This educational workshop is not therapy, crisis care, or a substitute for individual mental-health support. If you are in immediate danger, feel unable to stay safe, or need urgent support, please contact appropriate local emergency, crisis, or professional resources.